Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

mjohnson423 gave this response on 4/5/2000:

DEAR A LITTLE SCARED, GET A NEW BOYFRIEND. YOU DESERVE BETTER. WHEN I WAS 19 I HAD A BOYFRIEND WHO WAS JUST LIKE YOURS. HE ALWAYS EXPECTED ME TO PAY MY WAY. WELL, I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH PAYING MY WAY ,BUT I GOT TIRED OF PAYING HIS. AS LONG AS I PAYED WHY SHOULD HE? THAT WAS HIS MOTTO. SO I GOT TO THE POINT WHERE I NEVER TOLD HIM I HAD MONEY. I WAS A DAY TIME BARTENDER/ MANAGER .I WOULD TELL HIM THEY UPED MY RESPONSIBILITIES ON THE MANGER SIDE OF MY JOB.IN THE END I GREW TIRED OF HAVEING TO LIE AND I DUMPED HIM. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I'M A LITTLE OLD FASHION. I BELIEVE THE GUY SHOULD PAY FOR THE MOST PART. I LIKED TO BE WINED AND DINNED. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU DO TO.AFTER YOU ARE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME I THINK IT IS NICE FOR YOU TO TREAT YOUR OTHER HALF. THEY ALSO LIKED TO BE SURPRIZED SOMETIMES. MY FATHER ALWAYS SAID A REAL MAN WILL ACCEPT HIS RESPONSIBILITES. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I LIKE A REAL MAN . ANYTHING BUT TURNS ME OFF TOTALY. AND TO TELL YOU HE GAVE YOU MONEY LAST TIME...........THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU GO HUMMMMMMMMMM....... HE IS LOOKING FOR A FREE RIDE. AND YOU ARE NOT A FORM OF TRANSPORTATION. GOOD LUCK TO YOU MY FRIEND! REMEMBER THERE ARE OTHER GUYS OUT THERE WHO WOULD DIE TO HAVE A GIRL FRIEND AS CAREING AS YOU. LOVE,MJOHNSON423

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