Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

blue_eyes_33 gave this response on 4/5/2000:

Im not trying to be mean but DO NOT give him money just because he says he gave you money and he is taking you out to dinner. What you can do is this: tell him that you appeciate the money he has given you and thanks for the dinner but I want to buy myself something and I can`t if you keep asking me for money. The other thing that pops into my mind is that he doesn`t want you to buy yourself anything nice for yourself because he feels threatened. It sounds like a control issue and you may want to think about your relationship and ask yourself if he tries to control anything else in the relationship. Lastly you can also just not tell him when you have money and are going to go buy something for yourself. Let me know if I can help you ant further.

BLUE_EYES_33 (noreen)

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