Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

Help4U1 gave this response on 4/5/2000:

The fact that this is your money and he pressures you for some of it shows selfish and manipulative behavior. If you do not wish to give him money then a firm no should be your answer.

He seems to be using guilt to play upon your sympathies and you do not have to put up with this. If you tell him no watch for his reaction and any changes in his behavior. Since this bothers you so you may need to examine the relationship as love should not be controlling or manipulative in any aspect.

Best wishes to you.

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