Anonymous asked this question on 3/28/2000:

Lately my boyfriend and I have been getting along so-so it angers him that when he calls I am either not home or to far to hear the phone, he talls me that I better be here at a certain time because he hates waiting, and this is so weird because he is so sweet, but his emotional outbursts are a problem.

symonie_2000 gave this response on 3/29/2000:

Anonymous,

The best thing you can do to improve your situation is to talk to him. Ask him why he is so demanding of you. He could fear a lot of things. He may be worried about your safety and just wants to see if you're okay. I know that happens when my mother doesn't hear from me in a while. (But men will NEVER have a mother's intuition.) He shouldn't be too protective of you. You can still have your freedom and do what you want. This might sound a little immature, but he can also think you're cheating on him. I know of some guys that subject their mates to that kind of "punishment"--they don't let them out of their sight and when they do, they expect them to be where they want them to be. THIS isn't healthy for you, either, so if you feel he's too possessive of you, you should leave before it gets worse. Then again, he could be under a ton of stress at work or be in a conflict with a family member or friend and doesn't want any more problems in his life. But whatever the situation, he has no right to demand you be somewhere if you can't. If you work, you can't just give up your job because he wants you at home. If so, then I suggest you consider leaving ASAP, while you're still free to do so. You can go see a counselor, too, which is what I suggest you do first (sorry if I'm confusing you). You two will be able to talk about what's bothering him with a mediator, but if you feel you can initiate conversation by yourself, go for it. But reminder: one of the worst things in life is succumbing to a demanding man. There is no reason you should stand for it.

symonie_2000