Labugana asked this question on 3/21/2000:

In the last few years I have noticed that men have become abusive towards women. It is not only in one race but in all. What is the explanation of this behavior?

yourfriend gave this response on 3/29/2000:

As you may very well know, there is never a good explanation to give for the abuse that is occuring. Although depending on who you may hear it from the excuses are numerous. From the stresses of work to life itself. Domestic violence is an issue that most people will never understand. It is a struggle for ownership,and strength. Many abusers make the victim have no self esteem,and to boot no friends or family after a while. The victim becomes to believe that if she leaves she will be hurt or worse killed. The control is the answer to all of the abuse. The more abuse the more control an abuser has over their victim. It could be from their past as a child watching their next of kin abusing. or it could be many other reasons as to why men are abusive.The victims are not stupid to have stayed they can only do as much at that very moment that they believe they have the strength to do. the statics are amazing. Also through the family and children hotlines.the some of the worst times for the victims are, around the holidays,and believe it or not Super Bowl Sunday, add a little alcohol, and the abuser will most likely strike out again,if the team loses, again this has been proven.

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