Anonymous asked this question on 3/28/2000:

Lately my boyfriend and I have been getting along so-so it angers him that when he calls I am either not home or to far to hear the phone, he talls me that I better be here at a certain time because he hates waiting, and this is so weird because he is so sweet, but his emotional outbursts are a problem.

karunap gave this response on 3/28/2000:

Some of the things you are seeing are symptoms of emotional abuse.

An emotional abuser does things like:

silent treatment guilt tripping ignores your feelings jealousy expect you to be interested in his friends but not be interested in yours try to isolate you from your friends expect you to be available at any time insults- direct or subtle monitors your activites says you are imagining things when you question him manipulation intimidation threats

Emotional and physical abusers get their partners to stay with them because they are really nice at other times. they will make things their partners fault and put the partner in the place of feeling and thinking that if I only fix myself I will be able to keep him from treating me that way.

What do you know about his other partnerships? Does he have a history of emotional or physical abuse.

You are certainly seeing some danger signs. Do some reading on the subject. Possibly talk to some of the domestic violence people. They will give you support... and suggestions for reading. Read CODEPENDENT NO MORE.

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