Labugana asked this question on 3/21/2000:

In the last few years I have noticed that men have become abusive towards women. It is not only in one race but in all. What is the explanation of this behavior?

Cntrygrl gave this response on 3/22/2000:

It is a fact that abusive men have a need for control and power. That, in reality, is what abuse is - POWER AND CONTROL!! Some men feel they must have this power and control over women, "to keep them in order" so to speak. If a man is brought up with abuse in the household, he is more likely to abuse his girlfriend and/or wife in the future. Men continue to abuse women for this reason. Unfortunately, many women feel they need to "fix" their man - If I stay with him, I can help him/change him. This is not what happens. The abuse tends to get even worse as time goes on. There is a cycle of abuse which is 1) the festation period - the man being angry or upset over something and continually thinking about it, which makes his anger worse; 2) the abuse itself, whether it be physical or emotional and 3) the honeymoon period, where the man pleads for the woman to forgive him, where the woman generally does because she "loves him" and she also hopes that that will be the last time, but it never is!! I hope this helps a bit, and please let me know if I can be of any further help!

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