Anonymous asked this question on 3/18/2000:

i used to be physically abused now its emotional abuse .i want to kno how i can stop the emotional abuse and have a better relationship with him again.please help.how can i communicate more with him?

Adalia gave this response on 3/20/2000:

I have had an ex who was physically and emotionally abusive so I know the awful feeling of wondering,"what did I do wrong?" " if i did this or that better he wouldn't treat me this way; on and on. The only way to stop it is to get help and get OUT. The guy is a piece of dirt. Don't let his immature brain make you feel that way too. There is probably a women's shelter in your town or one nearby if you don't have a safe place to go. Take your important papers(titles, bank info, social security papers, etc.) and cash and just enuf clothes. DO NOT TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE lEAVING! Play it cool. Don't give him any phone numbers where he can reach you. Disappear>>> If you have children, they can come with you. There is NOTHING that you can do to fix the man. He is damaged goods;let some court ordered counselor deal with him not you. Please let me know what you decide. I've been through this myself. My prayers go with you.

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