Anonymous asked this question on 3/6/2000:

Hi,

I want an opinion from the experts in this category. If someone chooses to spank their child for discipline, do you think they should have their child taken away from them by social services? I have a friend who disciplines her child with spanking. Her child went to school one day and told a teacher that she gets spanked. The next day social services were at her door, they had her under investigation for months. They told her if she spanks and/or yells at her child it is abuse and they will come back and take this child from her. That child loves her mother and she is a good mom. She provides for her and nutures her fully. They are very close and this would distroy this child.

Do you think this is right?

Fr_Chuck gave this response on 3/7/2000:

No spanking is not abuse, they need to contact an attorney, many schools still spank students at some point in displine

The school and school board should be contacted. Also never, never talk to police, social services or anyone without an attorney.

When I "poor misunderstood child" the words of social service, decided to take a baseball bat, and knock out by car windows, all of them front, back, sides, head lights, top of car and hood, then he started on the house, doors, windows, and then he dicided to swing at me, I took the bat away, and physicall tossed him to the ground, and "helped" him back to the ground when he got back up, to wait on the police

This poor youth was 16, over 6 foot tall and a bat makes you look alot older.

He told the social service that I hit him ( well I did 3 or 4 times to get him to the ground)

I saw them drive into the yard ( we ran a private park for kids to play in.

** by the way, he was mad because I erased and painted over the gang signs he painted on the road in front of the park, the city would not come and do anything about the writings on the street.

I tolk her to get back in the car and leave, she said I had to talk to her, and she would take my kids if I did not talk to her. I told her I was not going to talk to her without my lawyer, and she was never to come on to my property without a warant. and if she did not leave, I would help her ( that probably was not the smartest thing I ever said) but never, never talk to these people without a lawyer, they have more power than the police and normally expect you to 'Prove" your not guilty

Also if they deem you guilty of abuse, you lose you right to own a gun in most states also

Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 3/7/2000:

Yes, I believe she contacted a lawyer already. The 16 year old you were talking about did something that an adult would do and not a child so you treated him like an adult. How do social services think he'll be treated in jail once he gets there? I'd probably want to do the same thing you did to stop him only he probably would have knocked me out cold. That's a scary thought. Thank you for your input. I appreciate it.

Fr_Chuck gave this response on 3/7/2000:

social services said he was a poor child that did not have the proper social up bringing to properly understand his actions, they got him out of jail in 4 hours, without bail, took 6 months to go to trial, during which time one of his friends shot someone dead two blocks from the house.

social services testified in the trial that he had been tramitized by "my" assault on him and that he needed to be treated for this.

Of course he was out of gang clothes in a tie and saying yes sir to the judge

he got 90 days in a juvinile school, he vandilized a car within a week of getting out, not mine but someone who had disrespected him in jail

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Anonymous rated this answer a 5.

Thank you so much for your response.... All I can say about that situation is WOW!!