Anonymous asked this question on 2/3/2000:

I married a childhood boyfriend several years ago (separated for 1 year now) I thought I knew him but didn't. He put me thru hell, watching every move I made, following me(for no reason I might add)and when he'd ask me a question and I answered he'd say "no you did this or that" driving me to almost insanity. Now when I see a car like his or someone who looks like him it almost scares me to death. I panic in every sense of the word, sometimes crying, wanting to find some place to hide. I don't want the people I know thinking I'm crazy or I can't handle this but I can't! I'm always looking over my shoulder & afraid I'm going to have a breakdown in public. I don't know what's wrong or how to get help without someone putting me away. What's wrong with me???

Sharon65 gave this response on 2/8/2000:

Nothing is wrong with you. You were in a relationship that wasn't healthy. You should take care of you now. Sounds to me like you have some symptoms of post tramatic stress. The best place for you to turn for help is a counselor. Maybe a friend could refer you or you can just look in the phone book. It sounds like you need to put things into prospective. You have to remember, you are safe now. And sometimes we forget we are safe even after we have left a bad situation. No one will put you away. But you can find a counselor who is experienced in this area to help you through what you are feeling. The feelings you have are perfectly normal. Remember that !!

Sharon