Anonymous asked this question on 2/3/2000:

I married a childhood boyfriend several years ago (separated for 1 year now) I thought I knew him but didn't. He put me thru hell, watching every move I made, following me(for no reason I might add)and when he'd ask me a question and I answered he'd say "no you did this or that" driving me to almost insanity. Now when I see a car like his or someone who looks like him it almost scares me to death. I panic in every sense of the word, sometimes crying, wanting to find some place to hide. I don't want the people I know thinking I'm crazy or I can't handle this but I can't! I'm always looking over my shoulder & afraid I'm going to have a breakdown in public. I don't know what's wrong or how to get help without someone putting me away. What's wrong with me???

friend2all gave this response on 2/5/2000:

There is nothing wrong with you! You are having a perfectly normal reaction to what is happening to you. I would suggest that you try to get some counseling and/or seek out a support group. You local women's shelters or crisis centers can help you to find those things. You are not crazy! You are only looking to protect yourself and that is to be commended. This is a common reaction and is not something to be put away for, let me know how you are doing. Friend2all

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