djskins33 asked this question on 5/17/2000:

Hi, My name is Don Jackson.

I live in Northern Virginia, USA. I just recently lost my job and 2 women in my life. One I have known for 3 years the other for 6 months.

I am in the mortgage business but was recently laid off. Friday the 12th. I am not sure if I should stay with this field or go into something else? Any thoughts?

Love:

I have been in love with Michelle for 3 years but get hurt time and time again with her. Krista who I have known for 6 months and loved me is now only interested in being friends. They are both seeing other guys but want to remain close friends with me, even wanting to come over and be with me and they want to do things together but either one wants to be physical anymore and want me to be there for them inspite of the fact that are dating another guy. They don't know each other. I don't know if I should be friends with either of them or just turn my back. I was interested in being more than friends with them both and they both are afraid to lose me so they are trying to hold onto some kind of friendship which is hard to go back to because I have been physical with both of them. Should I try and be friends with them? It's hard because I get jealous that they want someone else when I am with them and getting along so well with them. It is a wierd situation being friends after the fact. You know?

Anyway, as you can see my life is so up in the air right now. I went out and bought this computer so I could find some answers. My bday is May 28, 68.

Thanks

TripleGoddess gave this response on 5/17/2000:

In advance, Happy Birthday. I have been in this situation before personally, and as a matter of fact, one of my best and dearest friends is a man I had a 6 year relationship with. I am married to someone else now, and "Joe" was gracious enough to wish me well in my new life. As for the jealousy part, I haven't a jealous bone in my entire body, so I am completely unaware as to what that even feels like. There are two things you must consider when making life decisions: 1) if I no longer have contact with these women how will my life be changed? I suggest that you write a list of pros and cons and weigh the evidence for both. 2) Can I honestly be a good friend to these women if I am plagued with jealousy? Does your jealousy cause conflict with the relationship between the two of you?? You have several options here: you can let all of this become a burden on you, or you can address the situation directly with them both. You may want to sit down and discuss your feelings, explain that you are uncomfortable with your jealousy, but feel that it is difficult to be "just friends" knowing that you have feelings for them that are obviously not being reciprocated at this time. I do not do astral charts, but I did make a quick consult with my runes and I think you need to find a new romantic interest. In doing so you will ease your "need" of these two young ladies. I am not suggesting that you match up with the first girl that passes, but for you to date casually and meet many new friends. I hope this has helped some. Bright Blessings, Raven

djskins33 asked this follow-up question on 5/17/2000:

Thank you. I am turning 32 soon and feel like a lot of changes are coming. I didn't get your take on my job situation. What do you think?

There is a lot of jealousy with michelle the very thought of her with someone else hurts and I don't know if being just friends is healthy for me. Besides I don't trust her and I know I will want more again.

Krista was my friend when I needed her so I know I should return the favor but am upset with her for moving on so fast after being so loyal and also since I have tried to give her my heart for the last couple of months. So, now I feel like I lost them both.

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djskins33 rated this answer a 3.

Quick response. But the advise wasn't as deep as I would have liked but food for thought.