Anonymous asked this question on 3/31/2000:
My son was in his home studying at his desk (junior in college) when the front door burst open and another student (known to him from fraternity) ran in and started beating him. He ran out when he realized there was a girl sitting at the next desk screaming. He went outside and slashed the tires on my son's car. My husband and I called this boy's father who said he would talk with his son and said he would assure us this would never happen again. I called this boy(age 21) who admitted he was wrong, mishandled his anger, didn't offer to apologize or talk things over and refused to see a therapist. I called the father and told him he had two choices: His son would see a therapist of our choice and follow a prescribed treatment plan or I would be going to the District Attorney to file charges. (The father responded that I was being unreasonable and that "boys will be boys"). I don't know if this kid is more than a product of poor parenting skills, no ability to handle his anger, and in denial about his drug and alcohol abuse which I believe contributed to his irrationality. The father agreed to talk it over with his son, but told me I was blowing it up out of proportion. I want to know if this kid is more than a hothead and has a mentally unbalanced state that could lead to further attacks.
Paul157 gave this response on 3/31/2000:
I don't know you will like my answer but hopefully you will understand it.
I am not in a position to say whether the other boy has mental problems or not. I have seen what alcohol and drugs do to people and I have seen what can happen if a person has mental problems. I am not the person to make the diagnosis. I would be so far out of line it would not be funny!
I would suggest that you contact the police at the university or other law enforcement and report the incident. The university may have the authority to impose penalties outside of jail such as treatment etc., I don't know. He may end up in court and that may be for the best.
Hope you get the assistance you are seeking. Best wishes!!
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