Anonymous asked this question on 5/18/2000:

I really don't know where to start? I feel so confused and depressed that i don't know what else to do? I am 23, have a wonderful boyfriend who would do anything for me,and a reception job that pays really well. So, you think that i would be happy, huh. Well, things couldn't be more wrong! Last November my boyfriend and i moved out of state with his construction job so he could have a chance to get promoted. I decided at the time that moving to a big city would be good for me too because there are alot of job opportunities for me.(i had previously gone to radiology school after high school for a year but did not finish due to personal factors from the program instructor, acutally the best move i made by ending the program.) So i thought that my best move would be to start over w/a new job. I have wanted to go back to college but so very unsure of what i want to do. I don't want to make the same mistake by just picking something and hating it again. Plus wasting money on something i decide later on on not doing is stupid. So, we have lived here now for 6months and i have a good reception job and his job is going ok too! problem is is that i am not happy! I miss my famiiy and old town. We are 8hrs away so we visit when we can but i just am not happy with that. I think about down the road and want to raise children one day there w/family and plant my life there. Now my boyfriend wants to travel, live the exciting life and live everywhere! The more and more we talk about my feelings the more depressed i get. I don't know what to do w/the way i feel! I think i want to go back to school before i settle down but then i have no idea what i want to do, none whatsoever!!! I think i should think about myself, but now it is me and him. Our relationship is very serious (we have talked about getting engaged) and i don't want to hurt it by doing someting drastic but i am so sad all the time! At work i feel ok but when i am home i don't want to talk to him and i just sit there and watch tv. I am not mad at him i just don't want to talk to him or do anything. Things change when we go home though, i am happy, alive, and feel different. Does anyone have any advice on how i cope or what i should do next? Thank you for listening to my long story.

~Confused

Jason4U22 gave this response on 5/18/2000:

It's not a matter of you copeing with the situation. The key to a good relasionship is communication!! If I were you I would sit him down, and have a heart to heart talk with him. Let him know how you feel about traveling all over the world, and tell him what your looking for. I know that you love him, but if the two of you see life differantly then there isn't any need in you carrying on, or waisting your time. I think you should go to school, get a carrer, and then get married if you would like I totaly disagree with you living with him. There isn't a commitment at all. You don't even have a ring yet. He hasn't asked you to marry him. A serious commitment is befor you are asked to move in with him, he is to ask you to be his wife, and you shouldn't move in with anyone until that takes place. I know your not going to give me a good rateing, but that's how I feel. What if you were to get pregnant? Nothing is 100% safe. Would you like to still "shack up", and travel with this child? No you wouldn't. I think that you are much more mature than he. You are finally getting to know what you want to do with your life, and I actually don't think your happy where you are, it may, or may not be the state But when you love someone your willing to go that extra mile for him, or her. I think you need to go back home. Of course this is up to you, I can't make that decision for you, but I do think your on the right track of wanting to go back to School, and you can't do that working, cleaning house, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of your "shack up". Sweetie, make it easy for yourself before it's too late Your still young, and can basicly do what you want to do with your life. You can be anything you want to be. I wish you luck. Now Go And Do The Right Thing.

Jason4U22 PS: Please don't forget to rate me PSS: I know you don't like my answer, but think about it.

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