what should I do

Subject: what should I do
Answered By: pain1
Asked By: Anonymous

Anonymous asked this question on 4/29/2000:

I feel like I have been locked up forever. My feelings are just know started to come out. I'm not sure if what I am feeling is depression or if it is something else. My family has treated me bad for a long time. I haven't ever said anything because I didn't know how and now that I have told a couple people I feel said and lonely all the time like no one understands. I guess what I need is probably someone just to talk to and understand me. I don't think that someone who is 16 should feel this way. Maybe someone can help me. Bye

pain1 gave this response on 4/30/2000:

Your feelings, and your age, are quite probably linked. I have a daughter who is, right now, celebrating her birthday..she too has been talking like this over the past week or so.

Depresion is, and always will remain, a very difficult thing to diognose. It comes in all shapes and sizes, all forms and manner and leaves many different feelings behind it.

I have no intention of saying it is simply you growing up...I happen to feel that even this is a traumatic time for us all, remember we have all been there too, and depression would be a word for the way we feel. Your family upset also leads to a possible cause of course. You are also right to say you need someone to talk to, someone who will listen and someone who will not judge you or laugh at you. Everyone on this site can, and will, talk with you but none of us can be there.

Have you got a special friend, one person you really do feel close to, maybe a relative even?? If so then explain you want to talk, tell them you need for them to listen and not offer judgements. So long as they understand all you want is understanding, a listening ear and a friend you will be suprised at how many will. Did you try to explain this to the ones you did talk to? or was it a case of you seeming like you were just moaning??

There is nothing wrong with seeing your doctor either..they understand and can offer advice and an ear...and they are not going to tell anyone anything you say.

Right now you need to find a friend, a real buddy, that one special person. Explain everything and make sure they know it is not them you are upset over, or with. Ask for their understandiong and help...you may be suprised at how many real firends you do have!!!

Good luck to you and I hope you soon feel much happier and are back there enjoying life as we all should be.

16 or 60 makes no difference..life is fun...should be fun and if it aint then seek help.

Dave (UK)

Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 4/30/2000:

Hi, Thank you for your help. I have a special friend and he is my boyfriend. He did listen to me and that is all I needed. He really cares about me and I him. That is what I like about him. He did take me to get some help and I am now seeing a conselor at my school. I just wanted to Thank you. So thank you and have a great evening.

Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 4/30/2000:

pain1 gave this response on 5/1/2000:

Hi again

I am so pleased to hear you have found the courage to speak to your boyfriend, a true friend indeed....believe me they are very rare indeed so hang on to him, and tell him I said congratulations for being one of mankinds nice guys.

Good luck with the counciling and remember, "be 100% honest" with them...they can only help if you are.

My best wishes to both you and your boyfriend....

Dave (UK)

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