Anonymous asked this question on 4/29/2000:
I feel like I have been locked up forever. My feelings are just know started to come out. I'm not sure if what I am feeling is depression or if it is something else. My family has treated me bad for a long time. I haven't ever said anything because I didn't know how and now that I have told a couple people I feel said and lonely all the time like no one understands. I guess what I need is probably someone just to talk to and understand me. I don't think that someone who is 16 should feel this way. Maybe someone can help me. Bye
jillyk gave this response on 4/30/2000:
It is very difficult to know which way to turn when you feel so boxed in, but you arenot alone sweetie, many, many 16 year olds do feel like they are living in a hen coop and just can't break away. I suggest you try to open up a little more to your parents or grandparents, have you told them how you feel? You say they treat you bad, I am just wondering how they treat you? Can you enlighten me a little more on this area, it is still very hazy.. You need to talk to the people in your household. How can they understand how you feel if you do not tell them. Please write again... You might have to talk to someone again about this, you will always need to air your feelings. You have made a start, and that is a good thing. Good luck hon. :)Jill.
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 4/30/2000:
When I say my family treats me bad. What I mean is my dad has treated me like a punching bag since I was like 12. I have always been to afraid to go to the cops. I know that they can do something about it but I'm not sure what to say when I get to them. I can't tell my grandparents anything because they are all dead. My last grandmother died about two months ago and I don't want to talk to my parents for the reason above. Bye
jillyk gave this response on 4/30/2000:
ok, now I have a clearer picture of what is going on, I hope that your father doesn't hit you again, but if he does and your mother does nothing about it go ahead and call the police immediately, or better still pack your bag and go to the nearest minister, priest, Rabbi, (doesn't matter if you have a faith or not), anyone who can give you some shelter or the police station itself. Don't muck about hon, this is serious! If your father has left marks or bruises then have the person giving you shelter or the police officer (female officer) will take photos and you can have him charged with assault if you want, this is a big step as he is your fatherto This is not a good situation, but I don't have to tell you that! You can also contact the victims of abuse support group. This group enables you to air your feelings in a supportive and friendly environment without you feeling afraid or repercussisons as everyone in the group with the possible exception of the group mediator (leader) has experienced the same as you have. I wish you all the very best, write again should you feel the need, thinking of you :)Jill.
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 4/30/2000:
Hi, I just thought that I would let you know that my father hit me again today, I couldn't stand it anymore. I went to the police. I'm staying with one of the officers that works here. He is a nice guy and he has a great family. I'm also going to press charges against my father. Thank you so much for your help. Goodnight.
jillyk gave this response on 5/1/2000:
thanks hon. I am glad you are with people who will and do care about you! Take care of yourself hon,. It is awful when things get to this stage, but they have so don't look a gift horse in the mouth, do your share and you will be fine. I have confidence in you honey!! You have made the first move and that is the hardest thing to do! congratulations! My best to you always sweetie... :)Jill. You can visit my site if you want to put a face to the name. See you later! take care..
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