treseq asked this question on 4/22/2000:
I and my wife, Karen, have been married for 11 years. My son is 9 and my daughter is 3.
My wife has a temper problem and things that happened to her when she was in school and with her family, which spreads to all areas of our marrige, ie relationships with family, friends, children and neighbours and myself.
I have somehow managed to survive this. She has left home since eight weeks and would like to reunite. We have discussed our problems and both agreed that this was the main barrier.
My wife has this problem much before our marriage ie with her parents, brothers and sister. She has deep rooted issues in her which I am unable to help despite my best efforts. She has realised that if we do decide to reunited this issue will have to be addressed properly with concrete ways of handling this.
She has been to psycologist and she says that they are of no use as they only give her anti-depressant medication, which she refuses to take.
I would like to keep this family united but I am affraid if this is not solved we will be back to sqare one! We have seperated 3 times before and I cannot take this nor is it conductive for the children.
If you can guide me in some direction that we can look to solve this problem I do not know how I could repay you.
Should you require more information that will help you to put me in the right direction for help please contact me on seqtreka@yahoo.com
Thank you Trevor Sequeira
genea gave this response on 4/23/2000:
Dear Trevor: I would love to help you. I need some more info, though. I'm a little confused as to what exactly the problem is. Is your wife's temper triggered by her parents and these problems from her past? How does she act when her temper gets the best of her? How many psychologists has she been to see? It may take some time before she finds one she's entirely comfortable with. Also, how long did she take her anti-depressants before deciding they didn't work? Was another type prescribed? I'm sorry for all the questions, but in order for me to help you to the best of my ability, this is some info I need. Thanks. Genea
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