Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

Men:

In most of your responses there is an indication that in acts other than making love, there is no emotional involvement. Is this what you really feel? You see, when I am kissed romantically, I am involved emotionally. When I am involved in the depths of passion, the words I utter are emotional unless I have no soul! That is who we are as women I believe. How could we offer of ourselves so freely without also sharing our emotional being? Thoughts on this are deeply appreciated.

Desertphile gave this response on 7/12/2000:

Greetings.

Many, perhaps most, men just want to fuck; nothing more than scratching an itch. Since a few women also seem to be this way, the disposition is genetically coded.

However, not all men are this way. Many give themselves heart and soul to a person before, during, and after kissing / making love. These guys also like to "fuck," but also to "make love."

The problem is that the fuckers outnumber the lovers. Sorry: that's just the way men are. I make no excuses for them.

If you are taking a survey, I'll add that I only kiss someone I an very fond of and whom I have a strong emotional attachment to. The few times a woman I did not know well has wanted to spend just a few hours with me copulating, I have declined. I lust after almost all women, but I keep my pants ziped. It has stayed ziped until those times when someone special had come along.