Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

physicskw gave this response on 7/12/2000:

You are right in that he played you to get what he wanted. There maybe two reasons that he does not just say: "we're done". He may not be mature enough to do the right thing. He may also be hoping that you are so hung up on him and his sexual prowess that you will hang aroung and be willing to hit the sack once in a while.

You will soon forget him when you find a real man that will respect you and your needs.

I am sorry you had to be subjected to a jerk like this.

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Physicskw