Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I have had this friend for a good many years; while I became a plain common person, he is quite the opposite: 32, very handsome, athletic (played football a lot), gets on easily with people, graduated from a famous place, he is smart and professionally very successful. The proverbial winner... Well, we were taking about girls the other day and he confided to me that "no woman can resist him, single or otherwise" if he really wants to have her. Of course I was bothered by this bragging (although he DOES get a lot of beauties) and mentioned married girls that I did not think would fall for his advances; he answered with a sly smile that he was sure they would think about him as they cuddled with their boyfriends or husbands. I was shocked because even discounting the bragging he DID seem to believe that. This left me saddened, because on thinking about it I feel that many beautiful people may also be like that. Now for the question: is it really so, beauty/success are irresistible? And even if that may be so, is a girl being unfaithful if she DOES remeber such a person while with her loved one?

Weddinggrrl gave this response on 7/12/2000:

Nope. I am happily married and have had men just like your friend make advances. Men that, when I was single, would have been considered the ultimate "catch". But I have always been able to resist. Not only because I am devoted to my husband, but because I (and many women) find that kind of arrogance repulsive, let alone resistable.

I don't think a girl is being unfaithful if she thinks about someone else when with her loved one. I don't think it's very nice, and it's probably best to focus on the man she's with, but she'd have to be with Mr. Wonderful to be "unfaithful", in my book.

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