Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:
I have had this friend for a good many years; while I became a plain common person, he is quite the opposite: 32, very handsome, athletic (played football a lot), gets on easily with people, graduated from a famous place, he is smart and professionally very successful. The proverbial winner... Well, we were taking about girls the other day and he confided to me that "no woman can resist him, single or otherwise" if he really wants to have her. Of course I was bothered by this bragging (although he DOES get a lot of beauties) and mentioned married girls that I did not think would fall for his advances; he answered with a sly smile that he was sure they would think about him as they cuddled with their boyfriends or husbands. I was shocked because even discounting the bragging he DID seem to believe that. This left me saddened, because on thinking about it I feel that many beautiful people may also be like that. Now for the question: is it really so, beauty/success are irresistible? And even if that may be so, is a girl being unfaithful if she DOES remeber such a person while with her loved one?
MarieMc gave this response on 7/12/2000:
Nope, your freind is just an ego maniac, it's sad that he thinks no one can resist him. he really should get his attitude in check, there is self confidence and that's a great thing to have but if over done it turns to conceit and that pretty much sounds as if he's standing in the lake of conceit. I'm sure he does get a lot of nice looking women but sit back and think, when have any of them stuck around? He's not in a relationship now, is he? I wouldn't even worry about it, you just stay on your path, you're doing great and as for him, well he'll still be doing the same thing in 30 years, except then he won't look as nice and perhaps all of his friends will have gotten tired of hearing how great it is to be him. They'll all be married or in healthy relationships and he'll still be putting notches on his bedpost, feeling emptier and emptier with each passing girl, women go for men like that for one night stands but that's it, one can only listen to someone talk about how amazing they are for so long and then ya just get tired, take care, best to you, Marie
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