Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:
Hi, I need some advice. Alright here goes me and my boyfriend (scott) have been dating for a year and a half but during this time I've spent alot of time with one of my bestfriends (joey). I've been into Joey a while and spent alot of time with him even with my bf there (okay there's a group of us 20 or so were all like bestfriends). So like 3 months ago Joey got in a accident on his sport bike(like a nija) and was in a coma for 3 weeks and couldn't talk for 3 after that now he's still in the hospital but is like so in love with me and I know he liked me before but I'm not sure if he's lonely or just in love with me for begning there through this life changing almost dealth sitution of his. Also with my current bf he'll be upset with us both and possibily turn my other friends that mean so much to me away from me and joey both. But I think I love Joey to and plan to move in with my sister this week I live with my bf now and start seeing joey . tell me what you think. please something I need some direction in this sitution.
SeekTrueLove gave this response on 7/12/2000:
Well, if you really think that you love Joey and he loves you back, then you should break up with Scott, move back in with your sister, and get on with your new life. As far as your friends are concerned, the one who are really your true friends will still be your friends, despite Scott's best efforts to turn them.
Joey may really be in love with you, but you've also considered the fact that he may have fallen completely for you due to your being there for him during his near-death expererience. It's kinda like the "Nightengale" syndrome where a patient fall in love with his nurse because she is there for him and cares for him. But I guess since you have been best friends for such a long time, maybe is just took a life changing event for him to finally speak his true feelings.
Anyways, good luck with the whole situation. It's better to end it now (quickly) with Scott. Seems like you've got your heart already with Joey.
Hope this helps.
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