Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I have had this friend for a good many years; while I became a plain common person, he is quite the opposite: 32, very handsome, athletic (played football a lot), gets on easily with people, graduated from a famous place, he is smart and professionally very successful. The proverbial winner... Well, we were taking about girls the other day and he confided to me that "no woman can resist him, single or otherwise" if he really wants to have her. Of course I was bothered by this bragging (although he DOES get a lot of beauties) and mentioned married girls that I did not think would fall for his advances; he answered with a sly smile that he was sure they would think about him as they cuddled with their boyfriends or husbands. I was shocked because even discounting the bragging he DID seem to believe that. This left me saddened, because on thinking about it I feel that many beautiful people may also be like that. Now for the question: is it really so, beauty/success are irresistible? And even if that may be so, is a girl being unfaithful if she DOES remeber such a person while with her loved one?

kirstie_w gave this response on 7/12/2000:

beauty is only irresistable for a certain amount of time. Do you really think your friend would get quite so many girls if they knew he thought as he does, I don't think so and if he does continue to get the girls in spite of his attitude then they will flit off as soon as they find someone cuter. Your friend will probably have lots of sex in his life but I doubt he'll get much love. as to the unfathfulness question while fantasies are important I think its unfaithful if you know the person you're fantasising about. Its crossing the line from fantasy to reality just a tad

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