Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:
Hi, I need some advice. Alright here goes me and my boyfriend (scott) have been dating for a year and a half but during this time I've spent alot of time with one of my bestfriends (joey). I've been into Joey a while and spent alot of time with him even with my bf there (okay there's a group of us 20 or so were all like bestfriends). So like 3 months ago Joey got in a accident on his sport bike(like a nija) and was in a coma for 3 weeks and couldn't talk for 3 after that now he's still in the hospital but is like so in love with me and I know he liked me before but I'm not sure if he's lonely or just in love with me for begning there through this life changing almost dealth sitution of his. Also with my current bf he'll be upset with us both and possibily turn my other friends that mean so much to me away from me and joey both. But I think I love Joey to and plan to move in with my sister this week I live with my bf now and start seeing joey . tell me what you think. please something I need some direction in this sitution.
Toria365 gave this response on 7/11/2000:
Be careful. You need to be honest with Scott, let him know you respect his feelings and that you have to move out and break things off with him before you can feel comfortable trying to start a new relationship. Let him know that you did'nt expect this to happen but that you can't deny the feelings that you're having for Joey. It's one of those "I dunno, it just happened" things. Be ready to have him upset with you. But obviously you're relationship was'nt all that great if you've found someone else. Don't make Scott feel that this is his fault or that he is inadequate...this is your decision and he should'nt be punished for it. Imagine if the tables were turned. If you are honest and sensitive, your friends really have no reason to get upset with you! If they do, then they really are overstepping thier boundaries and should learn to mind thier own business. I guess it depends on how mature your friends are. Well, good luck..follow your heart and be fair. Toria
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