Anonymous asked this question on 7/6/2000:

Okay I have been dating this guy for 5 years now, we have a daughter together. He has cheated on me before, and for some reason I keep coming back. There is this guy, that I used to date but he lives in another state, (the reason we broke up) He moved. We are starting to talk again. Should I tell my fiance now that I am talking to my ex? The ONLY reason why we broke up was because he moved away for a job, and I didn't want to go. Please feel free to help in any way oyu can by giving me any kind of advice you want too!!

caveslayer gave this response on 7/11/2000:

I would first look at the reasons why you kept talking to your ex a secret? Did you not tell your fiancée because you didn't want him to get jealous, or because you wanted to see where things could potentially go with your ex first? There is an important reason why he doesn't know and that should be the first thing you focus on. It sounds to me like you are trying to talk down your fiancée, meaning you are doubting your relationship with him and maybe want to be with your ex. You should only marry a person that you know you love. Fantasies are one thing, but you shouldn't marry someone that you aren't only thinking of. I think that your heart wants to try again with your ex, and since your fiancée cheated it gives you all the more reason. I always recommend following what will make you the happiest, right now I would recommend deciding why you haven't told your fiancée and decide who would make you happier. I hope this has helped. Bright Blessings...