Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 29. We've been dating for a little over a year and plan to get married. We've been friends for 10 years, and dated very briefly when I was 16 (he broke my heart pretty bad).

now that you know the background, here is the problem. I found out a couple days ago that he "made out" with 2 girls at the same time. I've met them before, and it's possible that'll meet them again. I think if it didn't happen in a public place, that it would have gone further.

I'll make it clear that we weren't dating at the time, just friends. I can't figure out why it bothers me so much. He's a great guy, and claims that he couldn't have sex with someone without there being emotion involved. This just seems to uncharacteristic(?) of him.

Why does this bother me so much and how can I get over it?

tink1972 gave this response on 7/11/2000:

I know the feeling! It bothers you so much because just like myself and a whole shipload of other truthful women, we can't fanthom the idea or thought of our man being with a another woman in any shape form or fashion. You are definitely not alone! The thought of it now is making me sick to think of my "Pooh" with some other underserving woman.

You can get over this by trying not to think on it and just thinking of what a good man you do have. Afterall, it was in the past and in all my years of experience the best place to leave the past is in THE PAST!

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