Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Help, I'm a twenty-year old female and I've been with about 8 guys in my life time. All have different sizes and styles, The problem is no matter how good the sex is or how much I feel for the person or how good the person is orally or even how thick and long the person is I WILL NOT HAVE AN ORGASM. What's wrong could I possibly have some kind of sexual disfuncntion, I mean I'm supposed to be in my peak or at least experiencing all kinds of pleasures, what can I do??? I feel like I'm the only person who has not climaxed. HElP

Lightworker1 gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Dear Anonymous,

I honestly think the problem is concentration. Do you find that you are distracted at all during these activities? Does your mind wander? Do you find yourself having thoughts coming in from nowhere? It really Doesn't Matter about the size what matters are the heights of intensity and intimacy you are willing to share with this person. That is the difference between just sex and sex with passion. You have got to become focused and allow no other thoughts than your man and his sensuality to come into the scene. When you are with him, close your eyes, clear your thoughts and feel. Relax your mind, relax your body while you feel the sensations of what he is giving to you. The touch of another is really quite erotic. You have to get your head in the right mindset and become accutely aware of the sensations happening to you. As you do this you will find your body responding almost automatically. How can it not? Just remember mindset. You are a sensual, loving woman who wishes to share intimacy. You'll be having explosive orgasms in no time.

If you wish to understand methods to achieve orgasm in more detail, please ask another question privately and the answers will be delivered to you alone.

Much love, Mia

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