Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 29. We've been dating for a little over a year and plan to get married. We've been friends for 10 years, and dated very briefly when I was 16 (he broke my heart pretty bad).

now that you know the background, here is the problem. I found out a couple days ago that he "made out" with 2 girls at the same time. I've met them before, and it's possible that'll meet them again. I think if it didn't happen in a public place, that it would have gone further.

I'll make it clear that we weren't dating at the time, just friends. I can't figure out why it bothers me so much. He's a great guy, and claims that he couldn't have sex with someone without there being emotion involved. This just seems to uncharacteristic(?) of him.

Why does this bother me so much and how can I get over it?

Angela_AdviceGirl gave this response on 7/11/2000:

I was in almost the sam position once. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years it was on and off though. He was such a good shy man with me. Well I found out he and his friends took turns with this girl one night. That was not like him at all. I always pictured it in my mind and told him it bothered me even though we werent together. He just kept apologizing. I eventually realized that if I didnt let it go somehow that it could really become a problem in our relationship. After time I just quit thinking about it. We are not together anymore. Not because of that though. So I would just give it time and do your best not to think about it. Concentrate on making this work if you really love him.

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