CatGirl25 asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Hi. I am a 25 year old single mom of a 9 month old. I really want to have a relationship with a man. It is hard for me to get out to go to clubs, ect. Therefore, I have been meeting men online. My problem is that I really have no babysitter so I can't come and go as I please. Will I find a man who will understand and put up with this? Right now I am interested in this one guy. He lives 2 hours away and wants to meet half way sometimes. How do I explain that I can not just do this on call? And that my daughter will most likely have to tag along?....Thanks

MarieMc gave this response on 7/11/2000:

I'm a single mom too, no babysitter either, my mom used to watch her but my mom passed away 7 months ago. I met my boyfriend online, and seriously I was just totally honest with him, said, I have a 2 year old daughter(she was 2 at the time), and I don't have anyone that can really regulary watch her, and he said, well we'll just do family stuff then anbd we did, we went to parks, we did outdoorsy things. I know 9 months is a bit younger than 2 but honestly if you're honest it is the best way to go, that way he knows from the beginning that you and your daughter are a package, don't get one without the other, and that's how it is when you're a single mom. Sure if the relationship continues, there will be times when you will make arrangements to get a sitter and do adult things and that's fine, but your baby needs you a lot now, and definately if someone is going to enter a relationship with you they need to know that the one wearing the diaper is #1, and you're looking for someone to be a family with, because you have a daughter, you'll just have to meet during the day, and if he really likes you and wants to get to know you better, he'll accept that, baby and all:o) Best to you, Marie

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