Anonymous asked this question on 7/8/2000:
Me and my girlfrien have been together for about 6 months and we have a great realationship except the sex is relly not to good. I am 33 and have erectile dysfunction(I have seen a doctor who checked me out and found on of the main veins in my penis is not working correctly..so the prescribed viagra which works)I can get erections when with my lover who is 25 and has a pretty good sex drive. Our normal process for making love is her laying there me performing oral sex and the we do the missionary position and thats it. I feel like shes a lazy lover and I dont know how to tell her..Im use to alot of forplay kissing etc and when I tried to kiss her sha said she didnt like it during sex and I love it during sex...also she says I come too fast which I suppose I do compared to her last BF who she said could last for 15min and I on a good day last 3 min. If this was it it wouldnt be so bad however theres more...This last time we had sex she said the my technique was too rough I needed to go slower and not pound so hard and taht she feels that our sex drives are not syncronized meaning shes not horny when I am and I when she is. Then she tells me its ok not to worry that she knows this couple who are married and dont even have sex because the guy dosent feel worthy and that he told his wife she could see other men....but that she didnt... So while she is telling me tall this Im feeling really bad and am wondering why is she telling me this story...does she want to start having sex with another man...so thats where we stand sexually for now and Im not sure what to make of all this any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks J
meggs gave this response on 7/10/2000:
I think you guys should sit down and seriously talk about it. Tell her how you feel and how you want more than just the missionary position. and listen to how she feels too. if she wants you to go slower than try that..it might make her more horny which will turn out better in the long run. If you don't want to talk to her about it. Go to a book store and get one of those sex books that has lots of postions and techniques lie it on the bed, light lots of candles, and make it romantic (girls like romantic) and tell her you want to have a nigtht of passion and try some of this stuff! hope this helps, Good luck!
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