Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 29. We've been dating for a little over a year and plan to get married. We've been friends for 10 years, and dated very briefly when I was 16 (he broke my heart pretty bad).

now that you know the background, here is the problem. I found out a couple days ago that he "made out" with 2 girls at the same time. I've met them before, and it's possible that'll meet them again. I think if it didn't happen in a public place, that it would have gone further.

I'll make it clear that we weren't dating at the time, just friends. I can't figure out why it bothers me so much. He's a great guy, and claims that he couldn't have sex with someone without there being emotion involved. This just seems to uncharacteristic(?) of him.

Why does this bother me so much and how can I get over it?

Weddinggrrl gave this response on 7/10/2000:

Sometimes men, especially at the beginning of a relationship, are on their absolute best behavior. It could be that he is the type to do these things, and (given the opporunity) I think almost every single man would. So while it may seem uncharacteristic, it probably isn't. But I wouldn't let that worry you. It says nothing about his faithfulness to you.

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