Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

dr_pepper gave this response on 7/12/2000:

You have answered your own question. You lost your virginity to him and that is why this is so hard for you. Losing that to someone is a huge deal, no matter what anyone else tells you. You have joined souls, so to speak. It will take you a long time, I won't lie. It took me over a year to get over my first. It's a part of life that trully sucks, especially for girls.

So, there is no good answer. Just try to keep you mind off of it as much as possible and try to move on. Only time can heal this wound girl.