G_I_JESS asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Hello. Is there really a way that you can tell that your b/f likes somebody else? Or if he likes you? Thanx...Jessica

SeekTrueLove gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Dear Jessica,

Well, there are a several different ways to tell when someone is interested or likes someone (I'm going to assume "like" in the romantic sense of the word).

They like to spend time with them. They like to talk to them. They like to touch them and flirt with them. They like to talk about them with other people. They compare themselves to the object of their affection and find common interests and points of opinions. Those are just a few instances.

I would assume that your boyfriend exhibited at least some of these actions when you first started dating him. So, I think you would have experienced what it is to be "liked" by someone.

If these "liking" actions have declined or dissipated altogether, then perhaps your boyfriend might have lost romantic interest in you. Remember, I said "might".

If he has shown these qualities or actions on to another girl, then you might be able to assume that he likes this other girl. However, you won't know the definitive answer unless he says that he "likes" this other girl. After all, maybe he likes her as just a friend.

How can you find out? Either through the grapevine, other people or friends who have heard him say such things. Or you could just ask him. Scary, but the very direct way of getting, hopefully, a straight and honest answer.

Hope this helps.

Good luck.