CatGirl25 asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Hi. I am a 25 year old single mom of a 9 month old. I really want to have a relationship with a man. It is hard for me to get out to go to clubs, ect. Therefore, I have been meeting men online. My problem is that I really have no babysitter so I can't come and go as I please. Will I find a man who will understand and put up with this? Right now I am interested in this one guy. He lives 2 hours away and wants to meet half way sometimes. How do I explain that I can not just do this on call? And that my daughter will most likely have to tag along?....Thanks

naughtylilangel gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Dear LeanOnMe,

My advice is to be upfront and honest with him about those things. The sooner he realizes them, the better off you will both be. Your daughter is the most precious thing in your life. If he can't deal with her being around now, how will he be able to deal with her later if the relationship moves to a more serious level and he possibly becomes her step-dad. If he's a stand up guy, then he'll understand that children mean that spontaneous jaunts are few and far between. I am a single mom of two little boys, 9 and 3. The man I'm in a relationship with (which started via the net) has to travel 2,000 miles to see me. He is well aware of the fact that sometimes our visits may be interupted due to a sick child or lack of babysitter. He understands totally that my kids come first .. and that makes me love him that much more.

Good luck and best wishes naughtylilangel

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