Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Help, I'm a twenty-year old female and I've been with about 8 guys in my life time. All have different sizes and styles, The problem is no matter how good the sex is or how much I feel for the person or how good the person is orally or even how thick and long the person is I WILL NOT HAVE AN ORGASM. What's wrong could I possibly have some kind of sexual disfuncntion, I mean I'm supposed to be in my peak or at least experiencing all kinds of pleasures, what can I do??? I feel like I'm the only person who has not climaxed. HElP

naughtylilangel gave this response on 7/11/2000:

First off, I totally agree with dridenour's answer. Every woman is physcially different. It all depends on the way your body is made, the positioning of your clitoris in regards to the vanignal opening is a major factor. And I also agree with the fact that you should know your own body, what makes you purr and roar, so to speak. If you know that a certain type of touch, perhaps harder, lighter, turns you on, then you can help your lover duplicate it. By also knowing how long it takes you to climax, you and your lover can concentrate on that aspect as well. Some women need lots of foreplay because they take longer to become aroused to the point of orgasm than their partner does. Also keep in mind that there are many women who cannot climax while their lover's penis is in them. Their vaginal muscles aren't able to contract around the penis. Finally, relax. Some people will tell you that you aren't concentrating hard enough. I disagree with this. Don't concentrate at all on orgasm. I'm not saying lay there and contemplate what color to paint the walls. I'm saying don't work yourself up to the point of psyching yourself out. Enjoy the sensations and go into it with the attitude of "Even if I don't orgasm this time, it still feels good and I'm still getting pleasure out of this." If you start out thinking "Ok, this time I'm going to cum, no matter what!" and then along the way when you feel those tingles think "oh! here it comes, it's going to happen!" you'll freeze up and nothing will happen. Just let the sensations and experience wash over you without trying to force it.

Good luck, naughtylilangel

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