Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Help, I'm a twenty-year old female and I've been with about 8 guys in my life time. All have different sizes and styles, The problem is no matter how good the sex is or how much I feel for the person or how good the person is orally or even how thick and long the person is I WILL NOT HAVE AN ORGASM. What's wrong could I possibly have some kind of sexual disfuncntion, I mean I'm supposed to be in my peak or at least experiencing all kinds of pleasures, what can I do??? I feel like I'm the only person who has not climaxed. HElP

erin1000 gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Having difficulty in this area can certainly be frustrating. It is possible that perhaps you haven't been with someone you truly feel open enough with sexually to go the distance with. Loving the person is also important to climaxing, but not necessarily the key to orgasm.

I doubt that you have any physical sexual dysfunction. Did you ever have a bad sexual experience when you were younger? It could be the root of your current problem. Maybe there is something bothering you deep down that needs exploring before you can have a healthy sex life.

Whatever the problem is, don't be so hard on yourself. Many young women don't have full arousal until they are older. I didn't have the "full experience" with a guy until I was 23, but it wasn't for a lack of trying. Be patient and your time will come. In the meantime, take care.

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